Ditching the Barcode

I have talked a lot about self-worth on this blog. I have talked about not feeling worth-while because of weight or because I miss spell things. I have talked about finding worth in men, or beauty. For the past few months I have been faced with a lot of changes. People have been asking me…

Letting Go

Hello! I’m alive! Sorry for my (terribly long) absence. It turns out that what everyone says about planning a wedding is very true and those last few weeks just kept me impossibly busy.  But now, the wedding is over and I am back from my honeymoon and I am ready to rejoin the human race!…

Mawwage is What Bwings…

Dearest Readers, our Ashley got married! Which is why she and I have been so behind on our posting. Within the thralls of wedding madness, we have neglected you, and we apologize. Ashley is presently still on her honeymoon, and I am still recovering by watching a lot of TV while frantically trying to find a job. Up until…

Optical Elusions

I’m sure everyone has looked at pictures of their younger selves and thought “Oh wow, I’m so little/thin” only to reflect that in this not-so-distant past they thought they were so “Fat”. Its this optical illusion we’ve been brought to consider about ourselves.If we don’t looked photoshopped to perfection then we are fat. Not necessarily…

Undefinable 

Culture uses a lot of words to define us: “Fat” “Thin” “Male” “Female” “Black” “White” “Queer” “Straight” “Good” “Bad” “Cop” “Criminal.” These many weeks, we have been trapped in a whirlpool that is unwilling to let us up for air.  We, as imperfect beings, cannot fully define the emotions we feel so deeply. We are scared, we…

Oh Yeah, That’s The Spot

I have a secret… I give incredibly good massages. And not like how Monica thinks she gives good massages: But I am actually incredibly good at them.  I have very strong hands. I understand muscle patterns. I have a good sense when something is out of alignment — I’m just generally amazing at it. I also…

Thick Thighs Matter

Yep. That’s me, in a bathing suit. And you know what? I wasn’t all that worried about wearing it either! Within a few minutes of laying out on the beach in my bikini (albeit a very high-waisted bikini) a woman nearby asked me where I got my cute swimsuit. I thanked her and told her…